Choose the right time

It becomes quite obvious that later motherhood has several advantages. Indeed, when the researchers Pamela Daniels and Katie Ueyngarten from Wellesley College asked a group of mothers whose children were aged about 20 years, to answer the question whether if they would so soon to give birth, if we could re-make the decision, more than half of them responded negatively. When the same question was offered a group of parents who zaimeli children 30-40 years, almost all of them said that they consider the time chosen by them to have children, it is correct.
Women who are in no hurry to have children, find themselves in the best way prepared for bearing and raising children. It is proved that older women during pregnancy suffer from feelings of ambivalence and less experienced internal conflicts. They are much more inclined to look at pregnancy as a blessing of God, and not because they could not have before. With age and experience comes the knowledge of who you are and what you want.
"You're more disciplined and live in harmony with them, says Corinne Nye, a professional photographer, who remarried when her only daughter was 16 years old. You know, from what you have to give and what you expect. When at 41 I became pregnant, I not only felt that I was lucky, I felt great joy. I knew that the child carries a huge responsibility. And though at times it can be difficult, the joy of his appearance more than I could assume. "
Pregnancy in later years usually comes at a time of deep reflection, a decision taken two mature man with a great life experience. Depending on the age of the couple can be seen in its "last chance" and therefore accept as a precious gift of fate.
"The study found that late baby means a lot especially to the mother; a woman of that age is less prone to stress, more open and interested in learning new, than young mother, says Ellen McGrath, Ph.D., executive director of the Psychology Center in Laguna Beach, California, which is her first child gave birth at age 40, and the second in 43. Later the child comes into the world as a priceless gift for the woman who knows what she wants. "
The Municipal Hospital in Toronto, a study was conducted, during which compared the feelings of nulliparous mothers of different ages; It found that older women during pregnancy experienced less distress than very young women, despite the increased risk of having a baby with genetic defects, despite the fact that a child is likely to have changed a lot of its usual life. In older women, most of whom later married, according to the researchers, because of their age more likely to become confident, independent, feel well, and it improves their mood during pregnancy. Although delivery approaches have depression may occur, but it is not so strongly expressed, as in young women.
In addition, the older woman, all his young years dedicated her career can look at pregnancy as an opportunity to try yourself in that remained a white spot on the map of her life. "I know many women, often after the age of thirty, who have achieved a lot in a professional field, and now want to establish themselves in the properties of his nature, which remained untapped, they have not shown fully in the role of his wife, or at work, says railway p McGrath. For these women have children means to climb to the top of femininity. They feel that for a long time they had to be masculine qualities necessary for survival they are hungry for femininity and want to achieve a balance. "
In contrast to the young woman who has not yet found its place in the world, the mother of older less inclined to wait for the child that he will be the embodiment of its aspirations. She also does not believe that the baby "pulls her back" when she tries to complete what was not in time. Most mothers who gave birth late have made sure to become professionals. "I remember my mother saying that she wanted to achieve in my life a few goals to prove that, in its domain, it does not give way to a man, and it has achieved this, so she never resented children, I did not think that they prevented her to make a career, "says Dr. Dorfman.