Why never go back to the one who hurt you
Why never go back to the one who hurt you.
It's time to finally take your sanity and understand why you should never go back to the one who hurt you ...
There are people who like you, but who are "harmful" to you, regardless of whether you have a serious relationship with them or is just another affair.
There is in these people some insatiable irresistibility, namely that they are supposedly near you, but at the same time not close enough.
You fell face to face in the mud, but not for the first time, and besides not for the last time.
You adore the moment when your name is displayed on your phone. You are ready to go to anything just to see her or his sincere smile. When you are not together, you want to see the look that he or she looks at you.
But you look into her or his eyes and see not at all the reflection that you would like.
You see in this reflection a sense of remoteness, which indicates that he or she is not completely with you, and will never, no matter how much you do not like.
He or she can say that you are beautiful and you will want to believe it, because words make some impression on us, they either hurt or give happiness.
Part of you is looking for the pain that this person gives you. This is an intricate "forward-backward" cycle associated with this person, you can not stop returning to him or her. You are all waiting for change in this man.
"Perhaps this time everything will really be different," you say to yourself with stubborn naivety. You again close all eyes.
You perfectly understand what is happening, what are the consequences of what is happening and why it is bad for you.
You also perfectly know the difference between those for whom you are in the first place and for whom you are just some kind of addition.
Usually, common sense eventually wins, but often it takes a long time. Your emotions trumpet the naked truth right into your face, because you have too quickly surrendered before your desire to embrace her or him.
I suppose that this can be perceived as weakness and emotional immaturity, which in one way or another is the case.
We are told to never settle for less than we deserve.
So why do not we follow this advice? Is it really that we succumb to temptation and surrender to a person who does not value us the way we deserve, makes us less valuable?
Perhaps it just makes us more humane, stupid on the one hand, fueling hopes on the other hand, vulnerable and at the same time stubborn.
We deliberately do not listen to the advice of our friends, although we are fully aware of the harm from this long-awaited, and most likely drunken, kiss. All we need is that they want us as much as we want them.
Causing pain is one of the most intimate experiences that you can experience with someone. This happens in order to identify the strongest among us, because everyone has feelings and memories that we release without much desire.
But I believe that while you can not control your feelings, you can still control how other people treat you.
We really want to believe that people can change for us, but we need to face the truth, it will never happen. It is important to understand and accept this.
The question is how long you can endure all this, and part of the solution is to realize your limits and what you really need. All this is not easy, but in the end, your happiness is only in your own hands.
Some people, no matter how much we reach for them, are not worth it.
Via Sophia Wu