In what position the spouses sleep - such is their relationship. PHOTO
American psychologist Corrin Sweet says that there is a direct relationship between the poses of spouses and lovers and their relationship, writes Konstantin SHIYAN.
“When you sleep, you cannot manipulate your body language. This is the time when you are honest with yourself and the most vulnerable. Your habits regarding how you sleep in a shared bed can tell a lot about your relationship, ”she said.
Here are 10 sleeping postures that can tell a lot about your relationship.
The habit of sleeping with a “spoon” is the most common among all couples. It is especially characteristic of young people who live together for three to five years. Psychiatrist Samuel Dunkell says that if a woman sleeps with her back to a man hugging her, this may indicate her strong emotional dependence on her partner. This pose provides a woman with a sense of peace and reliability, while a man gives a feeling of power over his partner, as well as a “duty” to take care of her. This pose, the researchers say, indicates that everything is in order in the relationship, and their romantic phase has not yet ended.
The pose in which the partners sleep facing each other, hugging, says, is typical for couples experiencing a period of intense love. Usually people sleep like this, who often have sex with each other and almost always couples whose relationships are just beginning to develop. At the same time, New York-based psychotherapist Elizabeth Flynn Campbell says that such a posture can speak of an overly complicated relationship when people are very dependent on each other and are afraid that something is threatening their relationship.
When both partners fall asleep lying on their backs, but at the same time the woman sleeps with her head on the man’s body, this may indicate that she is dependent on him. Dunkell argues that in such relationships one can talk about the dominance of a man: he seems to suppress a woman, forcing her to be not only a lover, but also a devoted companion.
4. “The cradle of lovers”
A man sleeps on his back, a woman on his stomach on his shoulder. This posture for sleep is typical for couples in which a man constantly takes care of a woman and is engaged in her upbringing.
5. "On a leash"
This pose resembles the first, but has one important difference: the bodies of a man and a woman in it almost do not touch. It's not about hugs. This pose may indicate that both man and woman value independence in their relations, but at the same time trust each other. The degree of affection of partners to each other in this case is not as great as usual.
6. "Foot lock"
This position says two things. Firstly, this may mean that partners are not very comfortable with each other. That is, they sleep together rather out of the need for physical proximity, rather than spiritual. Secondly, such a pose may indicate that the partners have exactly the opposite characters. For example, a man can value comfort, a woman - his independence.
This pose, when a man sleeps on his side, and a woman hugs him from behind, suggests that at least one of the partners feels uncomfortable in such relationships and subconsciously wants to run away. However, everything can be simpler, Dunkell emphasizes: a man only wants more freedom than this woman can give him.
8. Zen Style
This position is typical for couples who have been in a relationship for quite some time. She is a compromise between the connectedness and independence of partners. It allows you to create physical contact in a dream, but at the same time, none of the partners holds back each other. If the couple sleeps in this way, it means that in a relationship, most likely, everything is in order.
9. "Rock climber"
So usually couples sleep, at least one member of which harbor anger or resentment on a partner. Such a pose is a sign that something is wrong in the relationship. True, everything can be much simpler: one of the partners can annoy the snoring of his other half. Or the room is simply too hot to snuggle together.
10. "Crab Pose"
This situation of partners during sleep may mean that now in the relationship, everything may be in order, but recently they definitely had serious problems. Such a posture for sleep is an unconscious hint to a partner that resentment and pain have not passed.