Double duties and loss of interest in sex
In his second-change book, Significant Changes, Professor Arly Hosschild argues (not surprising anyone) that a married working woman also does most of the housework. Thus, these women work at home on the second shift. Research, however, shows that more and more men are becoming involved in household chores, but usually they do what is a thankful job, they bathe children or entertain them.
Hoschild writes that both men and women tend to regard the double-load problem as a purely female problem, although it affects men. Women working out two shifts get tired, and fatigue makes them indifferent to her husband lying next to him in bed. Lack of interest in sex can equally be caused by an undercurrent of resentment, and tensions are created between spouses in the house where a woman works non-stop.
According to research, the husband’s inadequate participation in housework and child care leads to divorce, or at least to thoughts of divorce. One of the groups of researchers even managed to quantify the effect that a husband helps at home on the satisfaction of marriage experienced by a woman. They found that every type of household chores performed by at least 50 percent reduces the woman’s desire for divorce by about 3 percent.