Another possibility: foster children
For couples whose desire to have a child outweighs the desire to have a biological son or daughter, an adopted child may be the solution to the problem. “But remember, warns Susan Michell, Ph.D., a psychologist in Washington, an adopted child cures childlessness. He does not cure infertility. "
And this is not always easy to implement. Due to the widespread use of contraceptives and the changing attitude of society towards single mothers, it is difficult to find a child for adoption. Some agencies involved in transferring children for adoption have age restrictions, while others have such long waiting lists that they do not accept new applications. Private adoption costs a lot of money and in some cases is associated with difficult experiences.
Marice Sanjacomo and her husband Luis a little over forty; they tried 14 times to have a baby with the help of artificial insemination, they drove for months in search of a child who could be adopted. “We have long and painfully walked towards the realization that adoption is the only way for us to have a family,” Maritsa recalls. “I always knew that I would regret later if I did not dare to take the child.”
The couple initially tried to find the child themselves and lost months to negotiate with an unmarried pregnant minor from another state, paid more than $ 6,000 for medical and other expenses. When the girl’s family informed them that the child was born, the couple immediately flew to this city. There at the hospital, they found out that the young mother had changed her mind.
“I was furious, empty and numb at the same time, recalls Maritsa. On the way to the airport, I stopped orientating myself so much that I left for the prohibition sign right under the nose of the policeman. When he stopped us and approached the car, I burst into tears and burst out: “Sorry, my child died.” And I sobbed even more when I realized that this was exactly what I felt. ”
After some time, one of his friends informed them of a new agency that arranged the adoption of children from Central and South America, and it cost $ 12,500. They contacted this agency and, after eleven months, became the parents of 5-week-old Martha from Colombia.
“Ever since it came into our lives, my wings seemed to have grown, Maritsa admits. But, although I am now a mother, I still remember that, as before, barren. This pain does not go away. She is with me, but she has become much, much weaker. ”