Sinister internal enemy

Even if you enter into a marriage with the best intentions to do everything together, your education can take you. Like your spouse, you may subconsciously take a number of traditional views about gender roles.
"Men and women share the same cultural attitudes, says Dr. Gilbert. Even in today's culture within the woman in marriage enhances their status. Women seeking older men, seasoned experience and, apparently, with great potential. Stereotypes die hard. " When Dr. Gilbert and his colleagues surveyed graduates of the University to find out what they see their future husbands, the results were impressive. It turned out that women want their husbands were not only attentive and gentle, but also successfully made a career. "And the men? asks Dr. Gilbert. They also want to have a gentle and devoted wives, but they are not interested, as the wife succeed in the service. "
Many women unconsciously accept the idea of ​​husband-breadwinner, even if they are making progress through the ranks. "If you are not aware of this, you will think that from birth you are meant to stay at home, you can cleverly inspire your husband that a woman's right to have someone who will take care of her, says Dr. Gilbert. Think about it. If a man talked as well, it would be considered insolvent. "
"You can also subconsciously assume that your career is less important than the career of her husband. Traditionally, women are waiting on altruism, the ability to guess and fulfill desires before they are expressed, says Dr. Martinez. By virtue of upbringing you, in all probability, you will be afraid to put your interests above the interests of the family work and career success can donate to keep the happiness of the family, which may be for you above all else. "
How do you overcome the enemy that stuck in your head? If you know that subliminal plants can float to the surface and influence your actions, it might help. It is also helpful if you and your husband will talk about these issues. Analyze your motives it will turn off the autopilot.