Love and the inability to deceive

"Fortunately, in reality we are not prisoners of our biology," says Jeanette Lauer, Ph.D., dean of the College of Humanities Studies at the United States International University in San Diego.
We are also emotional beings who value love, trust, friendship, fulfillment of the obligations it all, Dr. Lauer and her husband Robert have found 300 many happy marriages, which they have studied for several years and described in his book "Together until death." Although the couple Lauer did not ask directly about the infidelity, Dr. Lauer said that these qualities are incompatible with infidelity.
"The qualities that are particularly appreciated, both men and women called the same quality at about the same order were vital to their relationship, she said. They kept these people from casual relationships. "
"Fidelity holds marriage, says Florence Kaslou, Ph.D., head of the institution of family and marriage in West PalmBich and ex-president of the International Association of specialists in family therapy. This is one of the cornerstones of marriage, part of its foundation. If you damage the foundation, the whole building will collapse soon. "
Loyalty with the observance of the rights and responsibilities is an integral part of any intimate relationship, such that when you open another person to your heart and soul. "You open, let the other person know about you all, that you are aware of yourself, and that makes you vulnerable, which is why such a trust becomes an essential element of marriage." Dr. Lauer points out that in fact one of the reasons why infidelity is so deeply wounded, is a betrayal of trust, "the actual act of treason."
We are also aware of the infidelity as a sign of trouble. In a survey conducted in 1990 by a Canadian magazine, 87 percent of respondents said that extramarital affairs are a signal of the collapse of marriage.