An adult woman has many emotions when it comes to her mother. Relationship with the mother can be harmonious, and can be complex. Loving or hostile.
“The most interesting thing is that they are almost never neutral,” says Karen Johnson, MD, associate professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco. Below we will talk about these contradictory, different, but very real assessments.
“My mom is probably my best friend,” says Dina Farber, a 27-year-old female reporter. She accepts me for who I am, even if I do wrong, I make mistakes. I go to her for advice and help, I just love to talk to her.
Of course, sometimes we have differences, but they do not affect the basis of our relationship. "
Sharon Cook has a completely different experience. “My mother drives me to distraction, and so it was always, the 41-year-old lawyer admits she is in complete frustration. Whatever I do, she is always dissatisfied. When I buy her a gift, she accuses me that I give her things that I like myself so that I can inherit them later. Once a day she was born, I took her to a fashionable French restaurant, one of those she adores, but which she doesn’t have, because my father doesn’t like them. When I paid the bill, she said that it could not be considered a gift, because I also enjoyed it. She also added that I invited her to a restaurant because I did not find the time to buy her a gift. Sometimes it happens to me so hard that I want to hit her or scream. ”
But Sharon has got the habit of treating this state of affairs with humor. “The suspicion of my mother taught me something. Now when I buy her gifts, I really buy what I like. There is a chance that she will leave it to me. ”
Relations between daughters and mothers are sometimes hostile. “But they give them so much attention that this can be an obsession,” says Dr. Johnson.
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