Moms need to look at things wider
If you are the mother of a teenage girl, such statistics may puzzle you even if you are not surprised. How do you behave that you can tell your daughter about a topic that your mother may not have touched at all when it was important to you, or did it unsuccessfully?
“Most people today realize that banning sex before marriage sounds almost like a nostalgic dream,” says Dr. Rubin. “But it is only natural that mothers who survived the sexual revolution and did not shy away from it feel some discomfort at the thought of their daughter’s growing sexuality,” said Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D., psychologist and sexologist from San Francisco, and author of “ For you: the realization of female sexuality. ” For the most part, this is because everything happens faster, at an earlier age, ”she explains.
“A mother who tells her daughter that she should never have sex before marriage, creates a barrier between herself and her daughter that excludes the possibility of a trusting relationship, warns Dr. Barbach. It is better to become a mother for your daughter, "which you can ask about anything."
“Then you will be able to help your daughter navigate the path of her life, her daughter will know that the decisions she makes are completely her decisions,” says Dr. Barbach. She also needs to know that when the relationship becomes sexual, she will become more vulnerable and may have to suffer. ”
Laura Pinto had a mother with whom to share everything. She recalls how they talked about sex for a long time before the incident with the “amazing shot”.
“My mom and I always had such a wonderful, open relationship that my friends envied me,” says Laura. Without thinking, I always turned to her for advice. She told me that she should not give me “permission” to have sex, although that was exactly what I wanted. But she added that she believes: when I decide on him, this will be the right decision. She advised that one should not be afraid to refuse, if deep down you do not want this. She also said that she hoped that I would wait with this, but if I decide that my time has come, I will treat this with understanding and will take birth control pills. But I have to make the decision myself. ”