Mums need to look at things more widely

If you are the mother of a teenage girl, such statistics can puzzle you even if you are not surprised. How will you behave, that you can tell your daughter about a topic that your mother may not have touched at all, when for you it was important, or did it unsuccessfully?
"Most people today understand that the ban on sex before marriage sounds almost like a nostalgic dream," says Dr. Rubin. "But it is only natural that the mothers, even those who survived the times of the sexual revolution and did not shy away from it, feel some discomfort at the thought of the growing sexuality of their own daughter, notes Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D., a psychologist and sexologist from San Francisco and the author of the book" For you: the realization of female sexuality. " For the most part, this is because everything happens faster, at an earlier age, "she explains.
"A mother who tells her daughter that she should never have sex before marriage, creates between herself and her daughter a barrier that excludes the possibility of a trusting relationship, warns Dr. Barbach. It's better to become a mother for a daughter, "you can ask about anything."
"Then you will be in a position to help your daughter navigate the life path, the daughter will know that the decisions she makes are entirely her decisions," says Dr. Barbach. She also needs to know that when the relationship goes into sex, she will become more vulnerable and, perhaps, she will have to suffer. "
Laura Pinto had a mother with whom she could share everything. She remembers how they longed to talk about sex before the case with "a terrific shot."
"My mom and I always had such wonderful, open relationships that my friends envied me," Laura says. I, without hesitation, always turned to her for advice. She told me that she should not give me a "permission" for sex, although that's exactly what I wanted. But she added that she believes: when I decide on him, it will be the right decision. She advised that you should not be afraid to refuse, if at heart you do not want it. She also said that she hopes that I will wait with this, but if I decide that my time has come, I will treat this with understanding and use contraceptive pills. But I must make the decision myself. "