There are no rules of the game

Because you give birth, and not someone else, it is obvious that the instructor having ready rules of the game, it is not what you need. "What you really need, says Deborah Gowen, so it is in a man, ready to help, which is next to you is not to dictate to you, but in order to meet your needs. Even if you give birth for the first time, your instinctual drives may be correct despite the fact that they are in conflict with what is accepted in the hospital, with what you have been taught in the courses for pregnant women, and with your own habits.
In our practice, continues Dr. Gowen, we adapt to the woman. If she wants to sleep, we give her to sleep. If she expresses a desire to be like, we give it to sound like. If she wants to be a good boy, or, on the contrary, behaves badly let it be so. She can cry like a small child, to say that wants to go home, lock yourself in a dark bathroom and did not speak, and no one is troubled. This is a moment in her life when, no matter what she said, whatever made, no matter how behaved, she can do anything. "
Woman, which allow to behave the way she wants, next to which is all the time an assistant, often has less need for analgesics during labor. Indeed, several studies have shown that women who use the services of assistants are not necessarily among the medical staff, everything goes much easier. Deliveries have generally progresses faster, more rarely required medical intervention, including cesarean section, and mothers, and newborns are less common complications. The researchers suggest that the presence of assistants helping greatly to remove anxiety, and this effect is unknown mechanisms have a positive impact on the course and outcome of labor.