No game rules
Since you are giving birth, and not someone else, it is quite obvious that an instructor with the rules of the game ready is not at all what you need. “What you really need,” says Deborah Gowan, is a person who is ready to help, who is next to you not to dictate your will to you, but to meet your wishes. Even if you give birth for the first time, your instinctive motives may be more correct in spite of the fact that they conflict with what is accepted in the hospital, with what you were taught in pregnant courses, and with your own habits.
In our practice, Dr. Gowen continues, we adapt to the woman. If she wants to sleep, we give her sleep. If she expresses a desire to walk, we give her a walk. If she wants to be a good guy or, on the contrary, behaves terribly so be it. She can cry like a little child, say that she wants to go home, shut herself in a dark bathroom and not talk to anyone and no one will be outraged. "This is such a moment in her life, when, no matter what she says, whatever she does, how she behaves, she is allowed to."
A woman who is allowed to act the way she wants during labor, and next to whom an assistant is at all times, often has less need for painkillers. Indeed, a number of studies have shown that for women using the services of assistants, not necessarily from among the medical staff, everything goes much easier. Their births generally progress faster, less often medical intervention, including cesarean section, is less common in mothers and in newborns. Researchers suggest that the presence of an assistant helps to a large extent relieve anxiety, and this, due to unknown mechanisms, has a positive effect on the course and outcome of labor.