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As in the case of other heavy losses, it is impossible to say how and when you will be able to recover from it. Although friends and family may think that in a year you have already "been through it", you are unlikely to agree with them. The survey of 300 women who lost spouses, found that the grief experienced much longer than anticipated. Most of the widows, the researchers said, "relatively well-adjusted" after four years.
The period of time that you will need to cope with their grief, depends on your personality for example, on how quickly you get used to the changes, because your spouse would occupy a central place in your life; relevant circumstances of his death (whether it was sudden or happened after a long illness), how you support friends and family, whether consequential loss that could reopen old mountain.
Young widow additionally experiencing losses injustice. "Who would have thought, exclaims psychologist from Philadelphia Marion Frank, Ph.D., who was widowed at 23 years old, her husband died in a plane crash. This does not fit in the head. You can experience the feeling of a terrible injustice of what happened, feeling, bordering on anger. "
But every woman going through this grief in their own way. Life Melissa essentially halted for days, weeks and months that followed the death of her husband. She could not eat and suffered from insomnia. She clutched at or deal with manic activity, or was unable to move. She cried all the time. Sometimes it amazed how angry cause she strangers, "because they live peacefully, while the tragedy has completely changed my family's life."
Beside himself with grief, it should be practical issues had to settle. She suddenly became a single mother with two children, one of whom had not yet grown out of diapers and the other was inconsolable because of the loss of a loved Daddy. Although her husband has left her some money, Melissa knew that she had to find a way to increase the budget: "At three o'clock in the morning I used to wake up, sit up in bed and thought:" My God, how can I be more »
And she realized that as long as the time gradually tightens the wound, you quietly move forward. Four years after her husband's death, she still has not reached stability in financial terms, but have been able to think about Mark, "without pain". "And yet, she says, if I hear a song on the radio (their favorite song was" eccentric My Valentine ") as I wept."