Periods of life when the danger of change increases

In one popular film of the 1950s, the seventh year of a joint life is especially dangerous. "But the love of change can disrupt the course of family life after the first year, and after 4, 15 or 30 years of living together," said clinical psychologist Judith Slater. True, there are periods when marriage is particularly vulnerable.
When you are just starting a life together. A honeymoon is taking place, and some couples discover that the demands made on living together are very great. "They thought that romantic relationships will continue endlessly, and are not ready for a real life in which to share concerns and make compromises," says Dr. Slater.
When you become parents. "After the birth of a child, women usually have little interest in sex for a year, because they are very tired," says the psychologist from Maryland Shirley Glase. All the thoughts of the wife are often focused on the child to such an extent that the husband feels abandoned. Often he tries to restore balance by finding someone who will pay attention exclusively to him. "
When you are over thirty. Usually after thirty years the burden of daily duties, cares for raising children, and also in connection with promotion is increased. A love story can be a pleasant entertainment.
In the face of impending aging. "The middle years of life are associated with wilting and summarizing," says Dr. Slater. You may have a feeling that you are frozen in place, and you begin to reassess values, determine what you have achieved and, more importantly, what has not been achieved. A love story, you think, can be the beginning of a new stage in your life. "
When you survived the tragedy. After the death of one of the parents or a dangerous disease of the child, a person can make a novel to forget, or at least try to forget. "It's like a vacation from despair," explains Dr. Glass.