Real reality

Undoubtedly, being a single mother is not easy. "Know that it will be much harder than you thought, warns Maria Mancusi, Ph.D., a psychologist from Springfield, Virginia, who specializes in mother-child relationships. Like all parents, you draw pictures of your future life with your child in your imagination, and, in all likelihood, for you, as for married couples, will be a revelation when you actually realize how hard it is to raise a child. For a single mother, the reality is much more difficult, because it has to go through all one. "
The first thing that comes to the mind of the mother, the leading part of the solo, is that it is "it". She carries the whole load, she wakes up at 2 am to calm the crying child, she entertains him on rainy days, she leads the child through the stormy years of the transitional age. Almost always it works, it should arrange care for the child, worry about everything alone. When a child is sick, she has to stay at home, not to go to work. When she falls ill herself, she needs to find someone who would look after the child. "She does not have a rear, says Dr. Mancusi, there is no partner with whom she would share joys and sorrows. She may be under severe stress. "
"I do not think you can do everything yourself," notes Mattes. You need people who can support you emotionally. No one deals with a child as much as you do, and from this a bitter feeling of loneliness. When your child takes the first step and for the first time says "Mom", no one is as excited as you are. "
But you need people who can take care of you. It is necessary to have a support group from relatives and friends who could help if necessary. "You need to know that there are people you can call in the middle of the night and they will come to your rescue," she says.