Undoubtedly, being a single mother is not easy. “Know that it will be much harder than you thought, warns Maria Mancusi, Ph.D., a psychologist from Springfield, Virginia, who specializes in mother-child relationships. Like all parents, you draw pictures of your future life with your child in your imagination, and, in all likelihood, for you, as for couples, it will be a revelation when you actually realize how difficult it is to raise a child. For a single mother, reality will be much more difficult, because she has to go through all alone. ”
The first thing that comes to mind is the mother, the lead solo part, that it is "it." She carries the entire load, she wakes up at 2 am to calm the crying child, she entertains him on rainy days, she leads the child through the stormy years of transition. Almost always she works, she has to arrange child care, to take care of everything alone. When a child is sick, she has to stay at home and not go to work. When she gets sick herself, she needs to find someone to look after the child. “She has no rear, says Dr. Mancusi, there is no partner with whom she shares joy and sorrow. She may be in danger of severe stress. ”
“I don’t think you can do everything yourself,” Matthes remarks. You need people who can support you emotionally. Nobody is involved with a child as much as you, and this makes a bitter feeling of loneliness. When your child takes the first step and says “Mom” for the first time, no one is as excited as you are. ”
But you need people who can take care of you. It is necessary to have a support group of relatives and friends who could assist in case of need. “You need to know that there are people whom you can call in the middle of the night and they will come to your aid,” she says.