Rare meeting is not enough

Although a woman can not admit it, after some time, it will inevitably be faced with the fact that she was "other" woman in her man's life. Someone appears first. This understanding comes slowly, but always brings pain.
"I was almost all the time was bad, admits 32-year-old Linda Frayel, break the connection with a married man who was older than her 15 years. It took me over a year to figure out why I did it. Every day he spent with his wife, and in this part of his life, he rejected me. I waited for him to make a choice. He has already done it. He chose her. I was in the backyard of his life. I got what was left after his wife, children, his work and his entourage. I had a secret which he was ashamed. I had to admit that I feel bad, because I have rejected as a woman with whom want to be every day. I could not bear it.
Oddly enough, he concludes Linda, I believe, like many other women who find themselves in a similar situation, which has played a positive role in the preservation of his marriage. For over two years I did it for his family life bearable. "
But what makes life bearable another woman? "It fits. Those who decide to save your marriage, help confidence, says Dr. Bitner. And friends. You need to be very busy, your life should be filled in addition to communicating with them. Do you need a job, so you have been absorbed by it and not to lose confidence. You should know that you can entertain yourself at Christmas, Easter and other holidays. You have the means. You live your life, and it is only its appendage. It is the only style of behavior that is triggered. "
Cindy Merrvill lives 300 miles away from her lover, whom she sees once or twice a month. "Because we live in different cities, I am quite a run. If I saw him every day, I have always been immersed in the experience, and it would have ended badly, "she admits.
She is counting the days until the next meeting. She successfully makes a career, collects antiques, and exposes the growing Persian cats, teaches riding. "I am very rich, active life, and I'm happy, she says. In fact, my novel complements my basic life. If we met regularly, I could not rely on such an attitude to him, and my pride would suffer. "
Linda Frayel also leads an active life, but to her it was not enough. "I spent more time with a loved one, than the majority of women in such situations. We worked together so often seen, but it was hard to be away from home at night, weekends and holidays at least an hour. Although I loved him with all my heart and still love me that was not enough. I wanted to belong only to me. I wanted to have a husband and children. He said he was going to leave his wife, but after two and a half years, all was still. "