Fear of aging
Unfortunately, the cultural imperative, suggesting that the way we look determines our value to ourselves, our men, our world, makes women so sensitive to the physical signs of aging.
So is it Yes, yes. Despite the fact that women settled in operating rooms, driving a car, in hotels, psychologists find that most women still believe that their value is determined by what they look like and not by what they can do.
“Women tend to equate beauty and sexuality,” said Laura Barbanel, Ph.D., professor and postgraduate school psychology leader at Brooklyn College, New York University. Maybe this is an extension of the old equation "if ... then ...", i.e. if aging reduces our beauty, it also reduces our sexual attractiveness. If we look less sexy, we cannot attract partners. If we do not attract partners, we cannot have children. If we do not have children, then we do not fulfill its purpose. If we do not fulfill our purpose, there is no benefit from us. What is the logic? Is the whole value of a woman really in her ability to give birth?
Of course not. But the fear of aging is rooted precisely in such beliefs, ”concludes Dr. Barbanel. For a woman, as one of her colleagues formulated, aging is nothing more than a “humiliating process of sexual disqualification”.
EFFECT JANE Funds
The situation is complicated by the fact that now, in the 90s, we have the opportunity to delay at least the obvious signs of aging. Exercises can strengthen sluggish hips, exercises can tighten a sagging belly, tightening the skin near the eyes allows you to get rid of bags under the eyes, moisturizing means will improve the condition of the skin of the legs. There is no doubt that we in 40 years look not like our mothers looked like.
"Ironically, says Dr. Gergen, our ability to look young in adult years actually reinforces the myth that a woman is as good as she looks." This is what she calls the Jane Fonda effect.
“The problem is, she explains, that if Jane can look great at 44 or 54 years old, we think we should look good too. And soon it turns into another cultural setting. Society expects this from us, we expect it from ourselves. Such a setup takes possession of the minds, a controversial situation is created, the differences between age groups are smoothed out and erased, and at the same time we continue to believe that a woman with wrinkles on her face, spots on her hands and gray hair loses her attractiveness or at least some his "I". But in reality the opposite should occur. The middle of life can be a time of tremendous spiritual growth, because it is at this time that we look at ourselves in the mirror and think: “What have I done with my life?”, “What am I going to do in the remaining years?”