Learn to part with science
If you leave home, leaving a screaming child in the care of a nanny, teacher, preschool worker, or even a relative, you and your child will be in great anxiety.
“Children have several periods when they are especially anxious at parting, says Nancy Balaban, a child care specialist, doctor of pedagogical sciences. Usually somewhere between 7 and 10 months most children raise a real scandal if you leave them, even if you go to another room.
At this age, they understand that you are a special person for them, and therefore make a fuss when you leave them alone. ”
Many children eventually stop worrying, although between the 14th and 15th months and at two and a half years such restless behavior may resume. “At this age, children survive the separation even more painfully, says Dr. Balaban. They are very vulnerable and really badly need you.
You should be sensitive to their feelings (“I know you feel sad because Mom leaves”) and cuddle them a little more than usual, advises Dr. Balaban. Never push them away if they are pressed against you. ”
Leave with a smile after you hug and kiss the baby. Even if you, too, are scratching cats (this happens with moms), try not to transfer your mood to the child. One placings for the parting scene is enough. “And never try to slip away imperceptibly,” warns Ellen Galinski from the Family and Work Institute in New York. It may work at the beginning, but you will pay double and tripled because you will no longer be trusted. ”
She advises to leave the kid some of your little things "as a symbol of your return, passing from hand to hand an object that will allow the child to really feel your presence until you come for him."