The Great Unknown

The approaching maternity of some women plunges into a panic. They are worried: "Will I get it right?"
"When I found out that I was pregnant, the light dimmed for me, despite my great desire to have a child, admits Mimi Cowen, a medical equipment technician and mother of two-year-old Amanda. I was not sure that I have the qualities that my mother needs. "
You begin to worry about everything connected with the "Great Unknown". What will happen to your usual life, your work, how will the appearance of a child affect your relationship with your husband? How will your sex life change? And more childbirth. You must have already heard terrible stories, or if you already have a child, you might have had a story in the past, and you would not want it to happen again. Most experts believe that immersion in the thought of childbirth at this early stage of pregnancy helps a woman prepare herself for a test, having survived, as if rehearsing, everything in the mind.
The most important date in your calendar will be the estimated day of childbirth. All your plans are built around him. If this day falls on another memorable event, you can see in it an omen, good or bad. Women who recently lost a loved one sometimes come up with the idea that the child is coming to replace the departed. When Maria Bell, a school drawing teacher, found out that she was pregnant, she felt that, apparently, she conceived a child exactly one year after the death of her mother. For her, this was not just a coincidence. "I think that to some extent it was an attempt to replace my mother," Maria says. When we found out that we would have a girl, everyone in Mom's family was overjoyed. They almost sure that my daughter is a reincarnation of the mother. I do not believe in reincarnation, but when I look at my baby, I think that there is a particle of my soul and my mother in it. "
At this time, looking at the future, you may find that your past has become very important to you. Pregnancy seems to open in the memory of Pandora's box, and the bad and the good are remembered. You come to the memory of scenes from your childhood, you are again experiencing family troubles and precious moments of family happiness. "During pregnancy, you turn to your past," says Dr. McGrath. It seems that all this was only yesterday. You feel the past vividly: tactile sensations, taste, everything that you felt then, all this again with you. You are sorting out episodes from your childhood, most noticing and considering your relationship with your parents on a new day. "