Restore life

In their study, Dr. Needle reveals that the majority of people is what she calls a second crisis, when the initial explosion of grief, seemingly left behind, and the time has come a long gradual szhivaniya with the loss. This second crisis can be even more painful than the first. There is something like a birth, only you give new life to herself. Creation of new behaviors, awareness of themselves in a new situation forced to actions that reinforce a sense of sad, because it reminds of what you have lost.
"The difficulty is that you do not forget about the loss, says Dr. Needle. You realize what a difference you plus loss. You have lost your future in the form in which it appeared before you, and you need to create a new view of him. That is the hope. This is life. You can not go through with it in one night.
You can be perceived as a betrayal of the dead to build for themselves a new life. It's hard to continue to live, because we do not know how to love a person who died, said Dr. Needle. We think that the only way not to change anything in my life. It's very tempting, because it is easier to leave everything as it is, we proceed to the next stage of grief, which involves the development of a new identity.
The process of grieving can be just as difficult as any work, says Dr. Needle. It is hard work, in which progress can be negligible, and there is a lot of relapses. Though your sorrow is only yours, not like the other, those who specialize in helping those suffering from grief, offer to take advantage of their tips to facilitate the achievement of the stage of acceptance. "