Feng Shui, psychology and communication in the way of love

Photo © Timur.ru In the East, it spreads the blessing: "One Hundred Years of harmony in unity!" Love, marriage (marriage) - this is just the beginning, timid germ from which may grow a mighty tree loving relationship. Love - it's the journey. Love - not a prize, not a gift, not a fruit, happily fallen into the hands straight from the tree. It is a process, the whole life of the tree of love. Like everything else in nature loving relationships are dynamic, they are in constant motion and change.
There are no two similar trees, as there is no two similar relationships. However, the basic requirements and those in other similar: you need dedication, patience, sensitivity and awareness.
The same is true for culturing and maintaining the gain relationship. Generally speaking, the strongest feelings are inherent in the early stages of the relationship. Once the relationship has stabilized as soon as sighs under the moon culminated in marriage, all begins to change, threatening to turn into a routine. That's why sometimes say: "Marriage - love dungeon", although in reality the love - it is a long journey.
A long journey is like a river: starting with several thin streams, it becomes a large flow comes on stage rapids and waterfalls, water and then make their way through the rugged mountains and cascading into the valley, and finally flow into the sea. Marriage is the thread that is formed after the cascade thundering waterfalls.
The beauty of this long journey, starting at the rapids waterfalls, is an even stronger inner sense of accomplishment and joy. However, people often "fixated" on the stage of thundering waterfalls, peaks feelings like this, and is the whole picture. But if there is a waterfall, then for him is sure to be a river: where there is Yang and Yin will, and after a dynamic stage Ian always comes the transition to stage peaceful Yin.
People often mistake the difference between the high heat of courtship and a relatively safe haven of marriage as a symbol of change in the relationship. They feel that the attitude of the first type were completed and they were replaced by a different type of relationship, not so exciting, and so no longer require such care and attention. It is another common error associated with attempts to artificially break a continuous sequence at random, strictly limited steps. But the flowing river - the single unit, rather than a collection of separate pieces, held only the boundaries drawn on a map. Pushing the limits of our perception, we can see the whole picture and enjoy the fullness of the whole trip.
The correct point of view (the ability to see the love from the perspective of the entire length of travel) and the right attitude (consider each step as a means of stimulating mutual curiosity and collaborative discoveries, albeit at a slow, but a deeper rate) are able to create a solid foundation for a long and appreciative relationship. Yet any loving relationship of two hearts always dynamic and challenging. How well combined yin and yang, it depends on the quality of communication occurring.
Good communication is important at every stage of human love relationships. Good communication - the main component of courtship. Good compatible pair may break up due to impaired communication; unsuitable to each other partners may unsuccessfully try to keep each other because they are not able to clearly understand his own incompatibility.

Secret communication

We often imagine the dialogue in the form of an exchange of ideas, thoughts or desires among people. We believe that communication takes place by physical means: written or spoken language, sign language. In fact, the human body, like the universe, and everything in it, is an open system. It never ceases to emit, receive, exchange energy and data with all that surrounds it. Generally speaking, we are in constant contact with all that is around us, including with all existing in space. Although from a practical point of view, we consider communication as an exchange target intentions, yet one can not ignore the fact that in reality the communication range is much wider, whether we like it or not. legged not fully understand the mechanism of the present communication; more than that, they do not understand that communication systems can work just as with natural systems (eg, with water or air flow). Any form of communication data streams are sent simultaneously in all directions.
In dialogue there are always aspects of Yin (the unconscious) and Yang (conscious). Jansky aspect of communication is represented by all externally apparent communicative components, manifested at the level of conscious: voice, intonation, gestures. Yin aspect is connected with the invisible, unconscious level of communication. Of course, most of us perceived communication takes place on the first (Jansky) structural level: it comes to verbal communication, supported by gestures and facial expressions. However, each participant communication, starting to say, creates a projection, both at the level of the conscious and unconscious level. At the same time the other party is sometimes possible to catch the unconscious component in communication, sometimes not.
If two people talk to each other, between them there is a four-channel communication. The first channel corresponds to the communication between the conscious and the conscious (Yan - Yan), when one of the interlocutors expressed the idea, and the other accepts the above (see figure.). The second channel corresponds to the conscious communication from one interlocutor and unconscious perception communicate with each interlocutor, who at the same time can feel a sense of what is happening without regard for the foregoing fact. Yin - Yang This channel. The third channel involves communication at an unconscious level, perceived by the interlocutor on a conscious level (the perceiver is able to understand the information that he wants to tell his counterpart, not realizing and not trying to express the essence of appearance). This is the channel of communication Yin - Yang. Channel Four involves two-way communication on the unconscious level (Yin Channel - Yin). However, none of the interviewees did not give itself the report meaningful in the verbal component of communication, but communication is effective.
Thoughtform formed and communicated with one companion at the unconscious level, it may be perceived by the other interlocutor, bypassing both the stage of meaningful understanding. Such exchange of information option is able to influence the people, even if they are not explicitly respond to such contacts. However, for this kind of communication, people often can not understand why and what they respond to. We often non-Contracting what is in his heart, believing that as long as it was not expressed verbally (aloud) or non-verbally (gestures), then it is our interlocutor does not understand and does not recognize.
In reality it is not. People are really able to "catch" non-verbal, implicit information transmitted. That is why the sales agents believe that the value of the offered goods capable of projecting to potential buyers and their confidence in the merits of the proposed goods and completion of the deal without much effort.
If the sales agent is not confident in the quality of the goods, even under the most skillful verbal communication buyer can feel the uncertainty (because buyers perceive nonverbal thought forms through the Yin-n channel). In any of these structural inclusion communication channels occur simultaneously but with different intensity. This is why attempts to manipulate people through verbal communication channels are often doomed to failure. You may even feel that if you speak logically and convincingly, why would any others to agree with you? But they do not agree, because it will take the controversial uncertainty, you will radiate on a subconscious level.
Universe - an open system in which nothing can hide forever. When you really open and truthful communication all four communication systems are combined into one; because nothing is withheld, the difference between the conscious and the unconscious does not arise. People spend huge amounts of energy trying to beat each other in the communication game. Without it, life would be much easier!

first communion

AND skrennee communication is vital. However, by the people and sometimes it is not clear what they really want, what they think or feel. But if we clear ourselves what we want, what we think or feel, it is unlikely we will be able to clearly convey thoughts, feelings and desires of others.
The first - and most important - kind of communication is to communicate with yourself (and inside). Communicate with them - it means to fully understand himself. Only fully understand himself man is able to communicate with others without distortion. You do know people who can talk for hours, until they someone interrupts: "I do not understand what you want." This often happens with those who have said, not knowing exactly what he wants. Clear communication with itself, which serves as the basis for all other types of communication, there is a process of self-awareness. Only by mastering the ability to clearly communicate with ourselves, we can take up the clarification of questions arising as a result of targeted communication with others. To understand others, you must first understand yourself.

Yin and Yang of communication

Communication involves the transmission and reception of information, which we can call, respectively, Yin and Yang aspects. If the data receiver is not working properly, then no matter how powerful was the transmitter, the message does not reach the addressee. Similarly, if the transmitter does not work, not even the most sensitive receiver will not be able to grasp this message. Often we think that our interlocutor will understand the meaning of our messages as soon as we start talking. Hence, phrases like "How many times did I tell you about ...!" Or "I have already said a hundred times (say) you know ...." Man and woman are the embodiment of Yin and Yang, and therefore they have different characteristic types of energy; hence different ways and transmitting and receiving information. Women can not be as frank in expressing their thoughts as men; men are not always good listeners and they rarely manage to simulate the role of an attentive receiver information. It is important to always be aware of the inner nature of the yang Yin and differences in matters of communication. This applies to messages, and the participants of communication.

How to "reach out" to the interlocutor

To be truthful, open and honest with yourself - one; but how we communicate, how to deliver information to the interlocutor, it is often very different. In any relationship there are always those things that we like and those we do not like. Clearly tell that we love, that we do not contradict, as important as it is simple. The real problem arises when you want to start a conversation about what we do not like, or that with which we disagree. Some of these unpleasant things may not be quite so important, but still absolutely necessary to give clear aware that these things exist, and at the same time realize that they really are not important. Without such an understanding, we run the risk of unconsciously projecting low-level irritation every time we go about these unpleasant things to us. On the other hand, if we realize that it does not really matter, instead of unconscious stimuli will radiate around the clarity and consent to minor troubles like dannost.Konechno, there are times when we really need to clearly explain about the really serious difficulties . Lovers often try to create entire circuits and strategies of how to bring these ideas to a partner, but any game plans, any strategy of love, and the like will be successful only for a while for limited purposes, each of these tricks will have its price, which will have pay. If you do not like what you like another, you can, of course, try to keep your feelings inside yourself; but since the human body is an open system, which is applicable to the concept of "inside" and "outside", your efforts will be wasted. At the same time it does not mean that the partner may be forced to cram information and soldafonskoy directness. apolnit bucket under a small jet stream is easier than in the roaring mountain river.
Information, deliberately filed with the sharp and direct form, can not "walk" to the intended recipient, who is so unambiguous way of "delivery" can cause a denial, and even reluctance to pay attention to sending content. Or a message reaching the goal may be dropped back, absolutely not impressed by the partner. But the information submitted gently and carefully, can reach the goal even before the interlocutor will be thought of resistance. Just remember that smooth line - do not curve back door and your message, no matter how mild, should not lose the clarity and sharpness.
These are general guidelines. The ability to convey his message to the interlocutor - is an art, in which perfection comes with practice and experience; a lot depends on the partners themselves. In any case, always attentive care will bear fruit.

Suitable time to handle and answer

Getting to the relationship, starting with the first courtship and ending already well-established, reliable Union, it is essential to follow the natural rhythms. Clarity of communication, clarity of expression and communication of thought-forms, of course, important. e is less important and timely question: when to talk.
If one partner is not in the receiving mode, the other to engage the projection - ustaya waste of time and energy. If one of the couple - Ian, the other must be Yin; if one speaks, the other in the ideal should listen. If one projects the frustration and anger (Yang), it will be still better if the second try did not answer him in the same vein. Yang Yang option does not work, because if one pushes, the other must give way to him. Surrender does not mean to destroy itself; give way - means to convert the opposing energy, retaining its own balance.
Take a young couple: Both - professionals working full time. If a husband comes home tired after a long and difficult day, and found that the house was a mess, and dinner is not in sight, his irritation can focus on his wife. This woman can resist and return to her husband his anger. Result: two bunches of anger, opposing each other. If the wife is able at this time to neutralize the anger of her husband, a long evening recrimination be avoided. Then, after dinner, when a spouse has cooled, the wife will be able to show him the irrationality and injustice of his expectations, and the chance that the husband will hear your half and agree with it, this time will be much longer. Perhaps it would also be an opportune time for the woman to pay for their cards at the negotiating table in order to solve their own problems. The symbol Taiji line dividing and combining Yin and Yang, the curve rather than a straight line. In other words, if Ian pushes, it gives you the ability to cede Yin momentum needed for responsive action. Good relationships can be measured by the degree of fulfillment of expectations and desires. Human feelings are so complex that people often avoid attempts to express them in words in an attempt to keep the power and magic of these feelings. That is why it often happens that people do not want to express their true desires. Achieve performance unspoken desire is not the same thing, that to achieve the stated performance goals.
Love - is when you do not need many words. Sincere communication, the right way to communicate properly selected communication time - all essential components of a good relationship. To overestimate the importance of communication can not be sincere. True words have power, they penetrate into the depths of the soul. Growing up, we learn to "push the speech" like politicians, hoping to convey their thoughts with the help of the truth, but with the help of "communication techniques". Politicians, like actors, need of communication techniques, because they are often only pretend to the truth, and do not carry it to the people. And the truth has its own energy.

Photo © Timur.ru Magic whisper

We often believe that perseverance in presenting able to convey the message to the interlocutor. In fact, the softness of expression, on the verge of a whisper (Yin), cause of who you listen to, much greater resonance, because the other person will perceive you as the Yin frequency channel. That is why in many situations is better to use a whisper. The whispers a special magic lies: you know for sure that the teacher, who is given a hard time taming rambunctious class, sometimes with the help of a whisper achieve better results than using a scream. Whisper makes students quiet down, because everyone wants to know what the secret of such a teacher has to say. Human nature tends to underestimate the power of Yin, t. E. Power unmanifested because of the weakness. The projection, expression, expression associated with male energy Yang.
But Yin - the force is as real as the Yang! A quiet voice, gentle touch, light and simple idea, a vague image may be more effective than their equivalents yang. Firmly grasping the stone, you will feel a tension in the muscles, and just taking it easy and gently, you will feel and texture of the surface, and the rest of the stone quality. The same is true of all our senses, of our perception of the boulevards. Strong projection can cause resistance, and perceiving the message is basically just feel awkward stiffness resistance. But soft projection creates a listener's attention, readiness to perceive what he is told. Proper communication at the right time will help to create a solid foundation of good relations. And yet, despite all good intentions, often remains another question that requires an answer - a question of perception. Peculiar to the men and women of different energy patterns lead to different ways of perceiving situations and views on the world around us. This often leads to inconsistency between male and female perceptions of the situation. For example, a woman may perceive the problem in such a relationship that a man not only did not understand, but will not even notice. No matter how the "real" problem, if one partner perceives the existence of a problem, and the other - there is no real problem arises therebetween. That is why it is so important for men to be sensitive and attentive to such "trifles". This requires the right attitude and desire to pay attention and heightened awareness of, and sensitivity - in short, everything that is the ability to be attentive.
This requires intuition. Some people naturally have a more developed intuition than others. How can we develop this type of awareness and sensitivity? How to sharpen intuition? Empathy comes easily when body and mind are relaxed, and the heart is open. But for intuition need one more step.

intuition Development

What is intuition? How to define it? Maybe it's the proverbial sixth sense? Or intuition - it's just when you start to know something, I do not understand where and why? Supposedly, following the intuition, we should not make mistakes, because the intuitive power - it is a natural energy of the cosmos. But it happens - and often - that, relying on intuition, we are "stepping on a rake", "I just feel that he (she) is a good man, we were made for each other!" - And a week or two " How wrong I was (wrong)! "is a sixth sense could it lead us? No, if it was a real intuition, we would not have got into a mess. What then is the real intuition? In general, the intuition - the feeling, the very first impression the very first came up with the idea. But a split second later it was replaced there are tens and hundreds of other thoughts, so to find the very, first, is not always possible. image_12 If someone will give you a beautiful rose, you will likely hardly celebrated its first feeling about this, because immediately switch to perception: a rose, beautiful, crimson ... Here you will feel the aroma of a flower and begin to think that I could mean that gift. What was your first thought? Yes, it has long disappeared under a pile of other thoughts, and you do not notice! So, how can we still be able to catch these primary sensations? How to develop intuition? Someone decides that it should be done through meditation, energy development, and the like. Yes, these methods can help a little, but the idea of ​​the study and application can be misleading, because it suggests that to develop this intuition, you can take years much effort and training. The easiest way is also the most natural, and it is the way in which we already own and use: to develop the intuition, just start listening to your feelings. At first, the feeling that you will distinguish, may not be the very first of the problems, so be prepared for the fact that from time to time you'll still be wrong. But your feelings - this is the tool that you already have. Most importantly - do not be upset and do not be upset, even if at first there will be many errors. It was soon frustrated and forcing people to cover the output inner knowing, and only hope that others tell them. It is better to just admit that the first thing you miss the feeling and continue to listen carefully to yourself, always trusting in his ability to "catch" the very first sense of the next time. If you trust your feelings, you will soon notice how every time your experience more meaningful approach to the first. A little more - and you will learn how to celebrate the most proper sense and a little later reach the state meet, because your knowledge is true. The main thing - do not give up. Remember that you have nature, the universe, the energy of the cosmos. Empathy, understanding and intuitive understanding of each other can significantly enrich the love relationships. Cultivate these feelings is not difficult, and it is important not to lose sight of them. Lack of attention to them has already cost many of the rest of the happiness compatible pairs. Perhaps the most rewarding event in the relations can be called a situation when partner responds to your desire without having to tell him exactly what you want. This leads to the implementation of the communication on a very deep level of communication that goes beyond the ordinary world of the conscious. In general we can say that the correct vision of a long journey together, a proper understanding of the tireless exploration and discoveries in the way of two hearts, even after they have become one, clear and good communication will provide you with a truly beautiful love story.

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He has a sense of humor. He is kind and gentle. It is reliable and trustworthy. well with him. It - very sensitive. She - a strong and unusual personality. She is gentle and understanding. These sets of personal qualities, in addition to visual appeal and security, often referred to men and women, describing their partners (partners) or explaining his choice of the elect (the chosen one). The people of these couples often say: "They were made for each other." And yet the basic premise of a wonderful relationship is a sense of balance and reason. Before you fall in love with another, it is very important to learn to love yourself, believe in yourself, be pleased with himself. Love - not a box of chocolates. Between the extreme manifestations of emotions, such as laughter and tears, one discerns a thousand intermediate emotional states. Energy flows in the world of thoughts and emotions similarly as in the physical world. The only question is how to manage this flow of energy within themselves. Feelings are the fundamental psychological processes; they occur at different levels and at different scales. Some feelings such as hope, satisfaction, joy and so on. N., Allow the energy to flow freely. Guilt, grief, anger, on the contrary, blocking the flow of energy, and sometimes even suck her man relaxing. Such unbalanced energies play an important role in increasing complexity, abuse and even the destruction of relationships. Some of the negative emotions simple, others more complicated. The primary (elementary) negative emotions traditionally include anger, euphoria, feeling, frustration and fear. In conjunction with affection, misunderstanding and false perceptions, they can be converted into such a complex emotional form as envy, brutality, jealousy, contempt, malice, and so on. N. These emotions drain energy flow, blocking it, and it affects both the health and the relationship. To counter the negative emotions, you must first accept the fact that this phenomenon, which we need to learn how to fight, and then let go, forget them. The first thing to do - is to become aware of their existence; then you must accept the negative emotions, acknowledge their existence; The third step - pay attention to them, observe them, analyze, trying to understand their nature. Maybe talking about it easier said than done; but if you start with the first step, systematically advancing to the next, you will find that this is a snap to learn. Soon you will see for yourself that these emotions - just an illusion, not having a any real reason, just conglomerates reactions. All the more clearly distinguishing between those emotions lurking beneath the tangle of feelings, you will at the same time to unravel it, and eventually it will disappear like mist in the morning sun. Any strong and good relationship starts with each of the partners. Only internally balanced person is able to establish good relationships with others. Before you achieve external balance of Yin and Yang, each of us must first ensure internal balance of yin and yang. Only by learning to love ourselves, we can fall in love with a partner or another person. Therefore, it is imperative that all of us can discover balance and happiness above all within ourselves. However, as the Bible says, we all come into this world of sin (or, as the Buddhists say we come to redeem your karma). The imbalance arises from the moment of our birth, because a balanced mind does not arise out of nothing, he created an internal work. We have to overcome the difficulties, to learn to distinguish between them and more effectively deal with them. Often you can hear the quarreling blamed each other: "Why are you angry?" And the answer, in exasperation, "That I'm angry ?!" Here's an example of how people sometimes are not even aware of their emotional state, and even if you specify them on it, it will not be easy to recognize it.
Just realizing their emotional state, recognizing it, people will be able to pay attention to the process of thinking itself. However, this alone is enough to gradually come to understand that these emotional states devoid of any positive aspects, but promise a lot of trouble. And at this stage of awareness of a person is ready to phase out the disturbing emotional states. The main types of emotional reactions occur as a reaction to our six senses from the outside incoming information. Information comes in; emotions come out. Emotions can not be hidden, and no one can pretend that it is completely devoid of emotion. Many people get sick simply because, seeing the negative energy, try to keep within their reaction to it. This can lead to cancer or other diseases. You must let your emotions freely go out, but this is not enough - you need more attention and awareness. Without attention and comprehension you will be doomed to constant repetition or containment of emotions, or their release. But emotions like anger or fear arise, not without reason, because thanks to the realization we can see these reasons and try to change our attitude towards them. From the perspective of Buddhism, any suffering arise from attachment, and attachment is formed out of ignorance, do not allow a person to see the real nature of things. It is best to be able to see through the intertwining of ignorance and attachment and, consequently, be able to untie this Gordian knot. Being able to distinguish between an imbalance as such, we are not even being able to identify situations that led to the loss of emotional balance, is still able to change them. For this there are special techniques that do not require to fully address the problem of a supernatural insight.

Emotions - not just psychology

Body and mind are closely interrelated. Mental processes consume energy, and so may well affect the health. References to the impact of the mind on the body found in the ancient Chinese classic medical treatise titled "Treatise Classic of Internal Medicine of the Yellow Emperor", which was written two thousand years ago. Emotional problems - not just psychological; they originate in psychology and physiology. In other words, they do not arise "out of my head," but formed all over. Weekly visit to a therapist is only one way to deal with emotional problems, and not always the best, because the therapist may well not find the root of the problem if it arose on physiological grounds.

A heart
Small intestine
Joy
Liver
Anger
gallbladder
Spleen
Stomach
Anxiety
kidneys
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Fear
Lungs
Colon
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For example, if a person is easily irritated, the reason for this may lie in the weakness that Chinese medicine refers to the weakness of the liver system. That's why a careful and caring attitude to the liver system can alleviate this problem. Similarly, excessive anxiety, some people may be caused by disorders of the digestive system, so it will need to treat it, not anxious state. Western medicine, though, and come to a deeper understanding of the relationship between emotions and health, is still largely focused on the general mental and emotional states, not paying enough attention to the sustainable features of the relationship between specific bodily functions, and certain emotional manifestations. Chinese medicine, on the other hand, for thousands of years realizes the link between emotions and health links and certain emotional states with violations of certain physiological processes. Between the five main negative emotions (anger, euphoria, anxiety, sadness, and fear) there is a very interesting relationship, which is a good illustration of the theory of the Five Elements. Since these emotions are associated with certain elements, they can be controlled in the same way as the other elements relevant to the respective elements. Each of the elements corresponds to a certain emotion, and internal organ sound. If we consider the ways interconversion of emotions, it turns out that anger leads to euphoria, euphoria - to anxiety, anxiety - to sorrow, sadness - fear, which, in turn, again leads to anger.

The transformation of the elements, and emotions. For example, can not coexist with anger and anxiety, manic state of excitement and sorrow, and so on. N. The things within the same category resonate with each other, so certain emotions associated with their respective internal organs. So, anger affects the liver, which is responsible for the flow of qi; On the other hand, violations of the liver can cause irritability. Anxiety affects digestion; sadness associated with the breath, and fear affects kidney function. Any impact on the reception of certain organs affects the corresponding emotions and vice versa.  

Emotions in the relationship. In any romantic relationship, each partner should be able to cope both with their own emotions, and with the other person's emotions. This is one of the must and, by the way, very simple conditions of maintaining relationships. If your partner is angry, the main thing - do not resist his emotions, not to oppose their anger his anger. If there are serious grounds for anger, it will not last long. It dissolves once consumed the energy that fuels it, and when that happens, you will be able to understand the reasons for its occurrence. If the anger is due to a serious reason, will agree with this emotion, say something like, "I understand you have a good reason to be angry" - and say so that people believe that this is not an excuse.
This is not a game of diplomacy, because it is impossible to hide the true feelings. Taking anger partner, you speed up the process of development of this emotion, helping her go through all the necessary stages. If you oppose someone else's own anger, it will only reinforce this feeling, reinforce it. It is better to allow it to flow freely, and it will go away. The main thing - to give it the necessary time and space. Do not try to restrain the anger of the partner, do not try to block the path of fury, but at the same time do not force its manifestation. Point, but not customize. This is the best way to solve the problem and return to a balanced state.
It's important to remember that in the highest sense of the soul is always pure. As stated in a Zen koan: "The body - the tree of wisdom; mind - the mirror. " The original nature is always clean and sparkling. Negative energy pass without stopping through us, because they are not part of us. We represent what we think. Ten thousand dharmas are manifested through thought; ten thousand ills as manifested through thought. The thought process creates and maintains misery.
Take, for example, stress. This state is the product of a crazy pace of modern life. But stress is to be in the public eye - and we immediately add fuel to the fire, acknowledging his natural phenomenon. There are programs dealing with the stresses, further legitimizing the existence of this phenomenon, making it a normal part of life. Any small problem grows into a great and invincible, as soon as the approved and legalized its official methods of "treatment". The very idea of ​​"attack" on the stress and hectic state creates the appearance of the need for such "attacks" as perhaps the only way to combat these phenomena. In fact, this approach is often doomed to failure. As is the case with other types of emotional disorders, you should not attack disorder, do not throw him a glove ( "I go to you!"), And to recognize its existence, it is clear to see its roots.
Having analyzed the components of emotional distress, causing saw his circumstances, we realize that it is not well founded. In other words, quite clearly and see clearly the causes of disturbing emotions that it dissipated like smoke. To create a strong relationship, you must resonate with positive feelings of your partner. Concentrate on positive emotions, negative emotions and let them pass through you and dissolve without a trace in the world. If the problem situation persists, first analyze what your partner, try to first understand yourself. Do not forget: on the theory of Yin-Yang, Yin and Yang are always there together. While acknowledging, for example, that the problem is the Yin, and its solution, respectively, "Ian, we agree with the fact that the very existence of the problem implies the existence of its solutions. This natural solution is always the most simple and affordable.
And again, the partner always leave the place and the opportunity for self-manifestation. Never in Taita resentment heart as a weapon of the future revenge - that you'll only deplete your own energy. In the past, most marriages are arranged by parents of young, often without regard to their selection or desires. Yet those marriages turned out to be much more happy than many modern. What is the problem in the community? In our partners? And maybe, in ourselves?