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Learning to be rude beautiful. 40+ non-standard answers!

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Rudeness (after the name of Noah's son - Ham) is a type of human behavior, characterized by a rude, arrogant and harsh way of communication.

A person uses the tactics of rudeness in communication in order to clearly demonstrate his superiority, higher social status, while realizing his complete impunity. Rudeness can also be non-verbal, an example of which is the so-called “rudeness on the roads”, which uses “various inaccurate driving techniques that create nervous and emergency dangerous situations on the roads, as well as gestures”.

For each force there is another force. When a person is full of anger and resentment, it does not always go silent on his foul language. How to respond to rudeness, without losing a temper or falling to the level of the interlocutor?

40+ non-standard answers

  1. To talk with you on the same level, I have to go to bed! ..
  2. I do not know what you eat at breakfast, but it really works! Intellect tends to zero!
  3. Just do not remove the headphones from the ears. God forbid, by drafts, chill the brain from the inside.
  4. Should I go to a psychologist? No, of course, thank you very much for the good advice, but you shouldn’t dub it all by yourself.
  5. You will open your mouth at the dentist.
  6. To shock me, you have to say something clever.
  7. Another beep from your platform and your dental makeup will start moving.
  8. So that you celebrate your wedding at McDonalds.
  9. If I had the pleasure of communicating with bitches, I would have had a dog for a long time.
  10. Mind like a seashell.
  11. Looking at you I begin to understand that nothing human is alien to God. He has a great sense of humor.
  12. Speak, say ... I always yawn when I'm interested!
  13. You would have decorated the world with your absence, until I took a sin from the soul!
  14. Of the positive qualities you have only the "Rh factor."
  15. I live in front of the graveyard. You will show off, you will live opposite me.
  16. Does everybody love you? Oh, yes, love is evil ...
  17. Yes, what would you in the bath with a teaspoon could hide behind!
  18. - Girl, miss? - Not by that much…
  19. Your right to your own opinion does not oblige me to listen to nonsense.
  20. - “Thank you” in the pocket will not put. - In the hands of the bear !!!
  21. Hey, you, rosette! Tulip from here, and that as zagorginu, obserenish!
  22. I came to you with greetings, with an iron and a gun
  23. The farther into the forest, the angrier woodpeckers.
  24. Better to be clever than to talk stupidly
  25. Is this a bunch of words, or do I need to ponder?
  26. Sorry I didn't justify your stereotypes.
  27. Some thoughts come to die
  28. He: We will go to you or go to me? She: At the same time. You - to yourself, and I - to yourself.
  29. What, the verbal oil well has dried up?
  30. Madhouse on the road, psychos in nature!
  31. What you are watching? Are you in a museum or something? I will arrange a cultural event for you in two acts without an intermission! I'll give you a slap - the head will fly off
  32. And you, what do you think that if you yell louder at me, I will listen more quietly?
  33. You now have my glasses you will carry home. In different pockets.
  34. Your speech style reminds me of the market talk of the distant nineties of the end of the last century.
  35. And do not laugh! Laughing for no reason is a sign that a person is either an idiot or a pretty girl. Do you want to convince me in the second - to start shave.

How to respond to specific situations. Examples further!

1. Agree with the person insulting you (classic):

  • Yes, you are a fool and an idiot!
  • Yes. I have a certificate! Do you think it is very clever to prove something to a fool?
  • You're just a fool!
  • Agree! This is what constantly have to talk to fools.
  • I do not like your answers!
  • What questions, such and answers!
  • Yes, I'm smarter than all of you combined!
  • Of course! After all, you have a mind chamber. Another guard to this shed ...

2. To bring the statement aimed in your direction to the point of absurdity:

  • Hey, slow down!
  • I can not, the brake should be one. (No, we already have one brake in our pair!)
  • What are you doing?
  • In the pants do.
  • Are you breeding me now?
  • And now you consider yourself to be a bee or a rabbit?

3. Turn a negative statement into a positive

  • You are a horseman!
  • If not for suckers, where would you be now?
  • Alone idiots around!
  • And you, what not usually feel smart?
  • What grabbed the phone when I talk to you ?!
  • I also prefer to talk to smart people!

4. Push the person "on the weak." After all, no one likes to feel like a weakling!

  • Something you somehow fucking dance ..
  • I do not dance, I just tidy up my legs so that you will not crush them to me ... (And you know how I am good at embroidering a cross!)
  • What are you blathering?
  • Strange, but others like my speech ... Do you have no sense of beauty, or a hearing problem?
  • Clever of yourself building?
  • Do you have problems communicating with smart?

5. What do you want?

  • Well, what are you quiet?
  • What are you, already wanted by this time on the table to the surgeon to get?
  • Well, and who is brave here?
  • You talk to me like that, as if you have a subscription to the emergency room.
  • You are a simple housewife!
  • Would you like me to be a currency prostitute?

With rudeness to fight! If, when you are rude, I want to cry, then the interlocutor has achieved his goal. Self-affirmed at your expense and was supported by a considerable share of your energy! Do not encourage this behavior in any case!

Motives and types of rudeness

wiki Doctor of Philology, professor and head of the Russian language department for the humanities and natural faculties of the philological faculty of St. Petersburg State University V. V. Khimik noted that “rudeness is one of the negative communicative phenomena of speech culture”. He identifies three motives for addressing this phenomenon:

  • social;
  • language;
  • cultural and speech.

In the first case, rudeness is viewed as a “negative communication phenomenon”, which usually excites society very much and becomes a subject of discussion both among the public and on the Internet. The chemist draws attention to the fact that the reader survey conducted by journalists of the newspaper Argumenty i Fakty in 2010 showed that rudeness was the most annoying factor for the majority (14%).

Referring to the language motive, the Chemist critically assesses the current state of interpretation of the words “ham” and “rudeness” in Russian explanatory dictionaries, which he considers insufficiently exhaustive and notes that despite the fact that in all the cases considered, the emphasis is made on rude and arrogant behavior, as distinctive traits of boor and boorishness, nevertheless “boorishness is possible without rudeness, without obvious impudence, and boor is not necessarily a rude and insolent”.

The third motive is illustrated by the fact that “ham” and “rudeness” in various speech situations can appear in various manifestations. In one case, it can be a clash with arrogant, rude and unfair behavior. In the other, not so much rudeness and arrogance is important, although they are also possible, as the ostentatious immunity to the existence of the interlocutor (speech partner) or those present. Proceeding from all this, the Chemist singles out the "third, moral, lexico-semantic version of the meaning of the noun ham," which means "the expression of neglect, disrespect, superiority in relation to the speech partner."

In addition, V. Khimik, in his typology of rudeness, distinguishes two vectors - vertical and horizontal. The vertical vector covers “variants of negative interpretation of communicative inequality“ from top to bottom ”,“ from strong to weak ”, these are the variants of collision of impunity with helplessness”. This is the behavior of the subject free from ethical prohibitions in relation to the non-free (bound by culture, upbringing, ethical prohibitions) to the addressee. Examples include the dismissive attitude of a boss to a subordinate (“on you”, nomenklatura rudeness), as well as an official - to the visitor and the elder - to the youngest.

In turn, the horizontal vector "gives numerous social variations that can be called spatial." V. Khimik identifies the following social interpretations of this vector: communal rudeness, telephone rudeness, family rudeness, rudeness in a clinic, rudeness in a store. He considers “the rudeness of motorists with their sub-types: road, parking, rudeness when overtaking, etc.” as actual situational varieties of the spatial vector of the new time. As an example, he notes the term “tram ham”, that is, “an ordinary household rude who controversies in public places, as if in a struggle for space,” which arose in the USSR before the war.

V. Khimik believes that trolling is “rudeness on the Internet,” and “respectively, a troll is cad on the Internet.”

Candidate of Philosophical Sciences, Associate Professor at the Department of Sociology and Political Science at St. Petersburg State University "LETI", Associate Professor at the Department of Theory of Communication at the Faculty of Journalism at St. Petersburg State University N. V. Kazarinova identifies the following main characteristics of rudeness:

  • negative evaluative action (more often - statement), directed by one of the participants of communication to the other;
  • unprovoked violation of respect for each other, as the norms of interpersonal communication ("saving face" of each other);
  • derogatory characteristics of the addressee as inferior, inept, incapable, unattractive, etc., in order to show their superiority;
  • the emergence of a feeling of insecurity, vulnerability, fragility, shame, confusion, outrage at the victim of the boor, generating a psychological defense mechanism for emotional violence, including retaliatory aggression.

Kazarinova notes that rudeness acts as a type of psychological and communicative violence, with the help of which inequality of the positions of communicators is created. The source of rudeness lies in the willingness and ability of one of the parties to humiliate the other in an environment where mutual respect is expected. She believes that a feeling of impunity arises from the boor because his “victim” is not able to step over the rules of behavior established in society. The reason for boorish behavior, according to Kazarinova, is that the boor needs emotional communication and, being unable to summon positive feelings (such as love) to himself in acceptable ways, he tries to establish communication with the other party using aggression in his own scenario, trying to penetrate the space of a speech partner by evoking negative emotions in it (for example, hatred and fear). So in everyday and other speech situations for the implementation of this goal are used offensive language - a fool, an idiot, a milk sucker, a freak, etc.