12 kinds of lies, which strong people do not believe in
Lying is an assertion that is certainly untrue and expressed in this form consciously.
In everyday life, a lie is the deliberate transfer of factual and emotional information (verbally or non-verbally) in order to create or maintain in another person a belief that the transmitting person himself considers to be untrue.
It's time to forget the lies that we are repeating to ourselves - for ourselves and for our future! Let's figure out what kinds of lies we have to deal with most often.
We live in troubled times. Every day around there is less certain and more and more uncertainties. Fortunately, this also means an increase in the number of opportunities. But so that we can overcome obstacles on our way and realize the available opportunities, we need a strong mind.
"In the depths of winter, I finally realized that inside me lies endless summer." Albert Camus
The power of the mind means, first of all, that you understand how to manage your emotions, adjust your thoughts to the right way, and always act in a positive direction, regardless of the circumstances. It is a profound knowledge that everyone, even the smallest step forward, is already progress. And that if you really want something, then you will achieve this, regardless of mistakes, refusals and unequal chances. Yes, every step forward will not be easy, but getting to the goal, you will feel better than ever. And one day you will realize that interference is not an obstacle in your way, that they are the way. And it's worth it.
A strong mind is needed in order to voluntarily follow this difficult path. And this is exactly what my wife and I ate the dog, and what we talk about everyday in our articles, and with our clients. Why? Yes, because somewhere around 90% of our problems are a by-product of intellectually acquired weaknesses of the mind. In other words, during our lifetime we hear from other people a whole bunch of lies about what we need and what does not, what we can do and what we can not, what is possible for us, and what not to think about - and subconsciously believe every word.
Do you know what is worse? After we not only begin to repeat this lie to ourselves and others, but also to live in accordance with it.
So, it's time to forget this lie - for ourselves and for our future. With what types of lies do we have to deal most often?1
Everything had to be completely wrong
We all have a swarm of ideas about how our ideal world should look, and it often brings us much more harm than good. Try to understand this. Less expect, and learn more. Get rid of illusions, and let life teach you - let it test you. Yes, you will not always understand it, but it's normal. When you think that it can not be worse any more, suddenly it will get worse - but when you think that it will not be better, life will cross out the expectations of the worst. People who are strong with reason appreciate the obstacles that arise on their way, because I know that each of them is one more step of the ladder to the tops. So keep going forward, continue to grow, and one day you will be able to describe your whole life in one phrase: "Everything went not quite according to plan, well, hell with it."2
Disappointment and sadness are not required at all
Excessively tuned for happiness, and only for happiness, you can program yourself for an unhealthy attitude toward negative emotions and phenomena. Strong people do not try to avoid negative emotions, instead they take positive and negative emotions, allowing them to coexist harmoniously. And this is a key element of their durability. Trying to be happy 24 hours a day and 7 days a week is useless - instead, it's better to focus on the integrity of our personality. Frustration, irritation, sadness and mistakes - all these things helped you become the person you became. Happiness, victory, a sense of contentment with yourself - all this, of course, is good, but they do not teach you half as valuable life lessons.3
Everything is bad, everything is very bad
Against this way of thinking, medicine was found even in the ancient philosophy of Stoicism: "There is neither good nor bad, there is only how we perceive it." Later it was paraphrased by Shakespeare in the form: "There is nothing good or bad, this thinking makes everything so." And they were right - the way we perceive the situation, can either play to our advantage, or cause significant harm. We often react to situations overly emotionally, projecting our negative on them, when to overcome them we should have treated them objectively. In the end, it's not the situation you are in at all, it's for us to benefit or to harm - for your benefit or harm you are attending to it, and what we are taking about this.4
People with strong intelligence know that the opposite of defeat is not courage, but hope. And there is always hope. When you lose something good, think about it not as a loss, but as a valuable experience that will help you move forward a little more on the path of life. In the end, who you are determined by the sum of your actions on each part of the life path. Remember - you always have enough strength and strength to keep going. Remain strong, and try to think clearly - even when it seems to you that everything around is falling apart, most likely it is not so.5
You had no other choice
Have you ever met a happy and successful person who constantly strives to avoid responsibility for his life, and for all his failures accusing anyone, but not himself? So we did not meet. Because happy and successful people are distinguished by a strong mind. They take responsibility for their lives. They believe and know that their happiness and success are only the result of right thoughts, right attitude to life, and right actions.6th
Successful people follow the rules of society
Do not obey the rules. Do not break the law, but do not obey the rules. You do not have to justify other people's expectations. The root of the misfortune of many people is often hidden in their need for external approval, which results from their attempts to measure their own dignity, based on listening to other people's opinions. But in fact the only opinion that you really should listen to is your own. You, and only you decide what kind of life to live. And the goals and expectations of other people do not really mean much.
There is always an easier way
The path of least resistance often turns out to be the least reward. If you want to achieve something worthy, for this you need to work hard. If somewhere leads the shortest path, think about it, but do you really need it there? As Einstein once said, "Genius is 1% of talent and 99% of hard work." To learn how to run fast, you need to run more. It is not possible to become a writer, not practicing writing books. If you want to become a successful businessman, you have to start somewhere. In short, hard work can not be replaced by anything. So repeat to yourself every day: "I will work. It will not be easy, but it's worth it. "8
Now is not the time
What's the use of the right thing, if it was done at the wrong time? And when it comes to achieving your goals, the wrong time is usually "later". Why? Because time does not stand still. And stop waiting for the right time, for it will never come. So make your decisions. Take risks! Life is too short to waste its end on thinking "And if ...".9
You lack something to be happy
People who are strong with reason know that the sincerest human gratitude increases the mood most quickly. The more good you see, the more good you create, the more around you will be things worthy of a smile. Happiness does not lie in the absence of problems. Happiness is when you value what you have.10
To impress people, you need to be yourself perfect
If the person you are demonstrating to the whole world is no more than a mask, one day you will realize that there is nothing behind her. For when you spend too much time on how other people perceive you and on creating the image of the person they want to see you, sooner or later you forget about who you really are. So do not be afraid of the assessments and judgments of others - in the depths of your heart you know who you are and what you really need. And you do not have to be perfect to impress people - let them be impressed by how you cope with your imperfections.eleven
Do you have reasons to hate someone?
The sign of a truly grown-up person is that when faced with the person who hurt him, he tries to understand why he did it, rather than trying to hurt in response. Learn to forgive. This does not mean that you give up what happened in the past, or forget about what happened. It means only that you give up contempt and pain, instead trying to make correct conclusions on the basis of what happened, and then continue to follow your own path of life. Remember - the less time you spend hating people who hurt you, the more time you will have to love those who love you.12
Favorite people should always agree with you
People with strong intelligence know that even those people who love you will not always agree with you just to make you happy. Rather, they will say what you need to hear in this or that situation, no matter how much you want to hear it. And it's good, because when people tell each other the truth, not embellished with sweet lies, it only makes the relationship between them stronger. When people see you as you are, without embellishments and tinsel, and still respect ... this is love. This is a preference for making a lucrative assent and agreeing with everything that you say. And sometimes this agreement with the fact that you do not agree. So what?
I want to give you something else to think about ...
In 1914, the great inventor Thomas Edison suffered a great misfortune. His laboratory burned to the ground with many years of work. Newspapers described this situation as the worst thing that had ever happened to him, but that was not true. First of all, because Edison did not think so. The inventor preferred to consider this an excellent opportunity to restore and re-learn much of what he had recently worked on. It is said that immediately after the fire Edison said: "Thank God, all our mistakes were burnt. Now we can start everything from scratch. "
That's what I call the power of the mind!
And now - your turn ...
Which lie do you most often treat yourself to? Which of the listed types of lies did you consider to be true? Leave a comment, share your thoughts!
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