Simple principle 90/10, which affects our whole life
Stephen Covey (eng. Stephen R. Covey; October 24, 1932, Salt Lake City, Utah, USA - July 16, 2012, Idaho, USA) - American consultant on leadership, life management, teacher and consultant on organizational management. Known as a lecturer and author of the book "The Seven Skills of Highly Effective People", which in August 2011 was named TIME magazine as one of the 25 most influential books on business. In the last years of his life, Stephen Covey was the deputy chairman of the board of directors of the FranklinCovey company.
Only a small part of the events of our life depends on the will of chance, otherwise we decide how the day will pass. So says the American writer Stephen Covey, calling it the 90/10 principle. And he showed the work of this principle with a simple example.
Shram.kiev.ua shares with you a short story about the effect of rule 10/90 in everyday life.
What is the "90/10 rule"?
The fact is that 10% of the events in our lives, we can not control. We cannot prevent the breakdown of the instrument we are using to affect the delay of the flight of the aircraft or adjust the red light of the traffic light. But we can control our reaction to these events.
The remaining 90% of the events are the result of our reaction. The result of how we behave in an uncontrollable and stressful situation.
Imagine the following ...
You have breakfast with your family. Your daughter inadvertently knocked over a cup of your coffee right on your shirt. You jump up and shout at your daughter, calling her muddy. Reproach your wife for putting the cup very close to the edge of the table. You rush into the bedroom to change clothes, and upon return you see a crying daughter who has not finished her breakfast and has not collected things for school.
As a result, she does not have time to school bus. Your wife is in a hurry to work, and you are taking your daughter to school in her car. As you are late, you rush, breaking the rules of the road. Having come to work late, you find that you have forgotten the necessary papers at home. Your day has begun terribly and continues in the same spirit. You wait can not wait until it ends. When you come home, you see that the wife and daughter are in a bad mood. There is tension in your relationship.
Why did you have a bad day?
A. Because the daughter inadvertently spilled coffee?
B. Because your daughter missed the bus and you had to take her to school?
Q. Because there was a traffic jam on the road and you were late for work?
G. Because you have responded incorrectly to the situation?
The correct answer is D. You have spoiled the whole day for yourself and your family with your reaction. You couldn't do anything with spilled coffee, but you could control your reaction.
But it could be all different
Coffee spills on your pants. Daughter is ready to cry. You say softly: “It's okay, just try to be more careful next time.” You go to the bedroom, change your pants, take everything you need for work. You return to the kitchen and have time to see through the window how your daughter waves her hand as you get on the school bus. Saying goodbye to my wife, leave the house. You come to work 5 minutes earlier and vigorously greet everyone.
Two different scenarios. Both started the same, but ended differently. It's all about your reaction to the events in your life. Of course, you can continue to blame others for their troubles and complain that life does not add up, but does it help to live better?
Learn to respond correctly
If someone overtakes you on the track. Let it overtake you, do not rush to the race: what does it matter if you get to work a few seconds later? Remember the 90/10 rule and don’t worry about it.
The plane is late, it breaks your schedule for the whole day. Do not break at the airport workers, they are not to blame. Use this time to read. Meet other passengers and have a pleasant conversation.
You will not lose anything if you try to apply the 90/10 rule in your life. Believe me, you will be amazed at the results.