Barrier to pleasure
It so happens that women live happily, completely satisfied with their sex life, until suddenly instead of pleasure they begin to experience pain.
This disorder is called “vaginismus” and is the third most common disorder of the sexual sphere in women. What's happening? Involuntary compression of the muscles surrounding the entrance to the vagina and the upper third of the vagina when attempting to have sexual intercourse. In the worst case, sex becomes impossible, at best sporadic and painful. It is surprising that, despite everything, you can maintain the ability to be excited and even have an orgasm.
The reasons are psychological. “This is how the body reacts to inhibitions and fears,” says New York sexologist Shirley Zussman, Ph.D. Often this has a negative attitude towards sex, pledged by parents since childhood, or too strict adherence to religious dogma. Sometimes it’s difficult for a woman to have a close relationship. She can not open up to others, does not give way to emotions and does not respond to sexual acts. "
“When a woman with vaginismus comes to me, Dr. Seifer adds, I see that she is usually an extremely competent woman who has made a good career. In many cases, she did not lead a sexual life for a long time. As if she said to herself: “Well, sex means not so much to me. I'm going to express myself in the business world. ”
Meanwhile, her marriage (or her sex life) is collapsing. Even if she realizes that not everything is in order with her, she often ignores the problem, especially if she can withstand sexual intercourse for at least some time, as Joe Marie Kessler, a private practice nurse at Crenshaw Clinic in San Diego, California, writes. Worse, the doctor may not give importance to the symptoms, if the examination does not reveal any abnormalities. Indeed, nothing can be seen if the violations are sporadic. “Only when a woman comes in with a complaint about the impossibility of a marital relationship, will the doctor be concerned about her condition,” says Kessler. It is not surprising that women with vaginismus experience feelings of guilt, shame, fear, and distrust. Disorder of function, anger, hostility and sensitivity develops gradually, and feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and helplessness seize them.