Crime hidden by his victim
Jesse was the victim of a crime that until recently had been hiding everywhere. The results of the latest study were astounding: it turned out that every fourth woman, and maybe even more, in childhood encountered attempts to molest or was raped. Some, like Jesse, were victims of the “last taboo” incest. Many survived the harassment of older relatives, people who have power over them, or, less commonly, strangers. The efforts to hide this secret, often from oneself, lead many to serious somatic and mental illnesses.
Researchers conducting research in a wide range of fields, such as childbirth and drug and alcohol abuse, have simultaneously spotted an alarmingly large number of women whose lives have been distorted by child sexual abuse. For example, one study found that between 30 percent and two-thirds of all malnourished women experienced sexual harassment in the past. And 70 percent of women alcoholics and drug addicts were also victims of sexual harassment or abuse. Another study carried out in 1990 showed that among women, for various reasons forced to seek psychiatric care, 63 percent in childhood were victims of sexual crimes or abuse.
Over the past few years, two celebrities, former Miss America, Marilyn van Derbur, and comic actress Rosanne Arnold have told horrific stories of their childhood, stories of sexual abuse. Many experts believe that the secret, being expressed, loses its strength, which fed a terrible injury.
For too long, crimes of this kind have been hidden. “You just didn’t talk about this before,” said Virginia Revir, Ph.D., a private psychologist in Alexandria, Virginia who works with victims of sexual abuse. If you fall under a car and you are lucky enough to survive, you can tell anyone about what happened. But you cannot talk about rape. ”
In some cases, they simply won’t listen to you. “People who have been abused can be said to behave inappropriately,” says Dr. Revir. Usually the father blames the child for what happened. ”
According to Linda Sherhart Sanford of Quincy, Massachusetts, a therapist and author of the book “Overcoming the Trauma of Childhood Rape”, a child often believes that he is to blame. Trying to understand what happened, the child can believe that he provoked or deserved such treatment.