Crime concealed by his victim
Jesse was the victim of a crime that until recently was widely concealed. The results of the last study struck: it turned out that every fourth woman, and perhaps more, in her childhood had encountered attempts at defilement or was raped. Some, like Jesse, were victims of the “last taboo” incest. Many experienced harassment from senior relatives, people who have power over them or, more rarely, strangers. Efforts to hide this secret, often from themselves, lead many to serious somatic and mental illnesses.
Scientists conducting research in various fields, such as childbirth and substance abuse, have incidentally discovered an alarmingly large number of women whose lives were mutilated by sexual abuse during childhood. For example, one study found that between 30 percent and two thirds of all women with malnutrition experienced sexual harassment in the past. And 70 percent of female alcoholics and drug users were also victims of sexual harassment or abuse. Another study carried out in 1990 showed that among women, for various reasons, they had to seek psychiatric care, 63 percent were victims of sexual crimes or abuse in their childhood.
Over the past few years, two celebrities, former Miss America, Marilyn van Derbur, and comic actress Roseann Arnold have told horrific stories of their childhood, stories of sexual violence. Many experts believe that being kept secret, when expressed, loses its power, which fed the terrible trauma.
For too long, crimes of this kind have been hidden. “Before, you just didn’t talk about it, said Virginia Revere, Ph.D., a private psychologist from Alexandria, Virginia, who works with victims of sexual abuse. If you get under the car and you are lucky enough to survive, you can tell anyone about what happened. But you can't talk about rape. ”
In some cases, you just will not listen. “People who have been bullied can be told that they have behaved inappropriately,” says Dr. Revere. Usually, the father blames the child for what happened. ”
According to Linda Scherhart Sanford of Quincy, Massachusetts, the therapist and author of “Overcoming Childhood Rape Injury”, the child often believes he is to blame. Trying to understand what happened, the child may believe that he provoked or deserved such treatment.