Regardless of whether your lover is married or single, to part, as sung in the old song, it is always difficult. How do I know if it's time to break up? “If your relationship has been going on for more than two years and you still don’t know what it’s holding on to, you are still trying to change it and still feel unhappy, you need to break the relationship, advises Dr. Bitner. If you feel addictive, it should alert you. If you, because of this connection, compromise your moral principles or lose your sense of pride, this may adversely affect your health. A rupture will occur when you become unbearably painful and you want to stop this pain. ”
You may be assisted by a support group. In the group led by Dr. Bitner, 90 percent of the women eventually left their lovers (including herself). “They listened to each other’s stories, gave each other advice and started to see their relationship differently,” she says.
But there are almost no such support groups for "other" women. Sympathetic, ready to help friends can be very helpful. “I had two friends who also had connections with married men, and we helped each other, recalls Linda. I left first, my friends did it shortly after me. We can say we persuaded each other. "
“What helps most, Dr. Bitner notes, is a feeling of anger. If you have enough reasons for resentment and anger, you can swim out of the situation to them, she adds. You need to have something that would strengthen you in your decision. Think what will happen if you stay. Then you will need to vent your anger because it will overwhelm you. ” It was this that ultimately gave Linda the strength to get away from the man she loved. "Staying with him has become harder than staying without him."