The threat to your union may come from the place where you expect the least of everything, despite the fact that you are happy and do not notice anything. Relationships, even if they are not sexual “we are just friends at work,” can have a destructive effect on the marriage alliance, says Dr. Kaslow.
“I watched it on people who studied together, she says. They constantly communicate and deepen their relationships, which over time develop into a rich nuance of friendship. They deal with more serious topics with fellow therapists than with spouses. Even if the relationship does not develop into sexual, even if it is not a “bond,” each of them has a feeling that such a bond can arise. The other spouse feels this, is beginning to be jealous, antagonism appears. ”
“If you start to feel attracted to someone that becomes dangerous, warns Dr. Kaslow, you need to establish the framework of your relationship and not go beyond them. If you feel that you can go beyond and destroy your marriage and you do not want this, you should stop. ”
This does not mean that you should break all deep friendships. Friendship plays an important role in our life. But care must be taken that this friendship does not worsen your relationship with your spouse and does not diminish its importance to you.
To keep the relationship honest and sincere, do not let the little things grow into big trouble.
“If a problem arises, talk about it, advises Dr. Lauer. Regularly track the appearance of clouds on the horizon. The relationship between you is the most important. Watch them. ”
See also: Infidelity, Marriage.