Back in the saddle
“Loneliness can play a positive role if it heals and does not cause wounds,” the doctor notes. So it was with Margaret. “The year I lived alone was a year of a very calm life,” she recalls. I did what I wanted, went where I wanted. A whole year without emotional shocks is wonderful. ”
Loneliness, as a rule, is not a permanent state. “Women resume their sex lives when they find a reason for this,” says Dr. Barbach. When they feel they are able to control their life and relationships. When they know that they will not become toys in the hands of other people who use them and throw them away. When they are able to decide what they want to get from the connection, and when they want to have it. ”
Margaret knew for sure that she did not want to enter into an intimate relationship until close friendships were established between her and her chosen one. “I did not need the illusion of intimacy, as I had before. I needed real closeness. ” And she found her. Two years later she got married. Now she has two children.